Dear Abby: Wife discovers abusive husband is planning to go

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Wife Stunned as Husband Reveals Plans to Leave Her Amidst PTSD Diagnosis

A Texas woman's world has been turned upside down after discovering her husband of 15 years is planning to leave her amid a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The wife, who prefers to remain anonymous, had stumbled upon intimate messages on her husband's phone, revealing a shocking plot to abandon his family and move in with a sister.

According to the wife, she has been a pillar of strength for her family, supporting her husband through thick and thin despite his controlling behavior and verbal abuse. However, her recent discovery has left her feeling devastated and questioning why it hurts so much. "I've always been supportive of him," she writes, "now this."

Dear Abby, the renowned columnist, offers words of comfort and advice to the distraught wife. She cautions against complacency, urging the wife to seek immediate assistance from a lawyer who can help her protect herself from financial exploitation. By taking swift action, the wife can shield herself from potential financial ruin.

Meanwhile, another reader in Oregon is grappling with a family crisis. The mother, struggling with pulmonary arterial hypertension, relies on her daughter for support, but feels betrayed when her mother has been secretly removing items from her apartment without consent. Dear Abby advises the mother to confront her trust issues and explore alternative arrangements for household help.

As these two stories highlight, the complexities of relationships and family dynamics can lead to heart-wrenching situations. It is essential for individuals to take proactive steps to protect themselves and their loved ones from potential harm.
 
I'm literally feeling so bad for this poor wife 🤕. 15 years down the drain, all because her husband couldn't open up about his struggles. It's like, she was supporting him through PTSD without even knowing what was going on in his head... meanwhile, he's been playing games with their family life. And now, it's all coming crashing down around her 💔. Can you imagine the emotional weight of feeling betrayed and not knowing how to move forward? I think we need to be more supportive of each other, like, really listen without judgment & show empathy 🤗...
 
😱 I feel so bad for this woman who's been through so much with her husband already. 15 years is a long time, and she's always been there for him, even when he was being controlling and abusive. It's like, what more can you do? 🤔 She deserves so much better than to be left in the dark about his intentions and then find out he's planning to abandon her and start fresh with someone else. 💔 The fact that he's got PTSD doesn't excuse his behavior, but it does make me wonder if there's some underlying issue that needs to be addressed. 🤷‍♀️
 
OMG, stats are crazy! Did you know that 1 in 5 adults experience PTSD? 🤯 According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), in 2020, an estimated 8.7 million people in the US suffered from PTSD. That's a lot of hurt and heartache! 😔 And it's not just women, men are affected too - in fact, according to the US Department of Veterans Affairs, about 1 in 4 veterans experience PTSD.

It's shocking that 1/3 of all divorces involve abuse 🤕 (source: American Community Survey). And if you think your partner is being controlling or abusive, don't wait for help to arrive - 70% of intimate partner violence occurs within the first year of a relationship 💔 (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence).

We need more support systems in place for people dealing with PTSD and abuse. Maybe that's why 90% of women who have experienced domestic violence report feeling isolated 😔 (RAINN). We gotta break the silence and help each other out! 🤗
 
😔 man... people's marriages can just turn into a war zone in an instant 😨 i feel bad for this woman, she's been holding everything together for 15 years and then BAM! her whole world is shattered 💥 it's crazy how PTSD can bring up so much pain and anger... and now she's gotta worry about financial exploitation too? 🤑 that's just a whole other level of hurt 😓 but at the same time, i'm like... why did this guy even think he could just leave her like that?! 🤷‍♂️ it's not cool, dude. 💔
 
OMG u guyz 🤯 this 2 fams hav like a whole diff level of drama goin on!!! i feel 4 the wife who just found out her hubby's plannin to ditch her 4 someone els 😢 she went thru hell dealin with his ptsd and all, and now he jus abandons her? that's low 🚫. anywaa, thx dear abbie for remindin us 2 look out 4 each othr 💕
 
I feel so bad for this poor wife... she's been supporting her husband through all that abuse and now he just leaves her? 🤕 Like, what's the point of even being there anymore? And PTSD diagnosis doesn't excuse his behavior, it's like, you can deal with your demons but don't expect a free pass to hurt everyone else. I remember when my own parents were going through a rough patch and they still managed to be there for each other... nowadays people just seem so much more selfish. 🙄
 
I feel so bad for this poor woman 🤕. She's been carrying her husband's emotional weight on her shoulders for 15 years, and it sounds like she's finally starting to realize the full extent of his manipulation 💔. I mean, can you even imagine finding out your partner has been planning to leave you because they have PTSD? It's just devastating 😩.

And what's really sad is that she's been enabling his behavior all this time 🤦‍♀️. Like, she knew he was controlling and abusive, but she stuck around for the sake of their family 🙏. Now it's like, too little, too late 💔. She needs to take care of herself ASAP and get some help from a therapist or something 🚨.

It's also crazy how much emotional labor women have to do in relationships 💪. Like, where is the support for these women who are carrying the weight of their partner's mental health issues? They need some serious support too 💕.
 
😡👩‍💔 I cant believe this guy just threw away his whole life on a sister he barely knows 🤷‍♂️ 15 years of marriage and it's all just about him getting his way... meanwhile the wife has been suffering in silence 💔 PTSD or not, emotional abuse is never okay 💯 and now she gets to deal with the financial fallout 🤑 like what even is wrong with these people?! 😤
 
oh my goodness this is so sad I cant even imagine how she feels 😔💔 15 years of marriage and it was all a lie 🤦‍♀️ PTSD can be really scary and controlling behavior can be super damaging it's not okay for anyone to stay in that situation if they feel trapped or scared 💪 we need to support these women and help them get the resources they need to take care of themselves 💕
 
🤕 This story is just heartbreaking 🤗. I mean, 15 years of marriage and he's been dealing with PTSD the whole time? That's not her fault, you know? And now she finds out he's planning to leave her for someone else? 💔 It's like, what even is that? Isolation doesn't help anyone, especially when it comes to mental health. These stories are a reminder that people need to communicate openly and honestly with each other, or they can end up hurting those closest to them in ways we never thought possible... 😕
 
I don’t usually comment but this story is really breaking my heart 🤕. I can imagine how the wife feels, being supportive of her husband for so long only to find out he's been planning to leave her. It's like, what even happened to all that love and trust she gave him? 😔 And then there's this other poor woman struggling with a serious illness and feeling betrayed by her own mom... it just shows how quickly things can take a dark turn in relationships 🚨.
 
🤕 this is just heartbreaking, i feel so bad for that poor woman who's been supporting her husband through all the drama & abuse. 15 years of being strong for someone like that? 🙅‍♀️ she deserves so much better than to be left in the dark & blindsided like that.

i think its great that dearabby is there to offer some advice & support, but i wish there was more emphasis on getting help ASAP from a therapist or counselor who can tackle those underlying issues of ptsd & control. its not just about financial exploitation, its about emotional manipulation too 🤑

anyway, i hope both women find the strength & support they need to move forward and take care of themselves ❤️
 
OMG, I'm literally shaking my head 🤯... Like, what's wrong with people? 15 years of marriage and the guy still thinks he can just leave his wife behind because of PTSD? That's not her problem, dude! 😒 She's been carrying him on her shoulders all these years and now she finds out about this secret plan and it hurts so much 🤕. And honestly, who is this sister he's planning to move in with? Sounds like a total rebound relationship 🚫. The wife should totally not be afraid to fight back, you know? Like, get a lawyer and take him down 💁‍♀️. And what about the mom in Oregon? Removing items from her apartment without consent is still straight up theft 🛍️. No sympathy for the parents who can't even handle basic trust issues 😂.
 
Omg u gotta feel for this wife 🤕 she's been put through so much already with her hubby's controlling behavior & PTSD... now he just leaves her?!? 😱 like, can't even get a straight answer out of him about why he's doing it 🤷‍♀️ anyway, i think the most important thing is that she's taking action & getting help from a lawyer ASAP 💼👮‍♀️ gotta prioritize herself & protect those finances 💸 meanwhile, i'm sending love & support to this mom in Oregon too 👩‍👧‍👦 pulmonary arterial hypertension is no joke 💔 so important for her daughter to be there for her 🤗
 
OMG, this is like something straight outta a TV show 📺! I mean, who knew that intimate messages on your husband's phone could be the final straw? 😱 It's like, you think you're all about supporting each other, but then he just up and leaves? 😤 Like, what even is PTSD now?! 💔

And can we talk about the emotional manipulation for a sec? Controlling behavior, verbal abuse... that's not healthy, folks! 👊 You need to take care of yourself, girl! Don't let anyone gaslight you into thinking it's your fault. 🙅‍♀️ Get those lawyer skills and protect yourself, 'kay?!

These stories are giving me all the feels, tbh 😭. It's like, we think our relationships are all love and rainbows, but sometimes they're just messy complicated things 💔. But hey, at least we can learn from each other, right? 🤗 Take care of yourself and those you love! ❤️
 
I feel so bad for this poor woman 😔. She's been supporting her husband through all that, and it turns out he was just waiting for the perfect moment to leave her for someone else 🚫. I mean, who does that? It's not like she didn't know about his controlling behavior or verbal abuse - that stuff should've been a major red flag 🔴. And now she's stuck with financial troubles because of it 💸. It's just so unfair 😤.

And don't even get me started on the other woman in Oregon 🙄. I mean, I get that her mom needs help, but removing things from her apartment without consent? That's not just a trust issue, that's a major breach of boundaries 🚪. She should've had a better conversation with her mom about how she wants to be involved in household stuff 💬.

You know what the problem is? People need to take responsibility for their actions and communicate properly 🤷‍♀️. It's not always easy, but it's worth it in the end 💕.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about that woman who's going through PTSD with her husband - it's devastating when you feel like you're carrying the load while they're struggling 🤕. I can imagine how hard it must be for her to see all those intimate messages and know she was being lied to. It's like, why should she have to pick up the pieces of a relationship that's already falling apart?

And on another note, I'm shocked by that mother who's being taken advantage of by her own family member 💔. It's like, how can someone so vulnerable with their health trust someone they love to just take whatever they want? I think it's amazing that Dear Abby is there to help them find a way out of this toxic situation.
 
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