Tim Dowling: our lunch guests are always prompt … So where are they?

My wife's friends are always punctual, so where were they? It was supposed to be an informal lunch, but we'd spent weeks planning it, and yet our guests seemed to have vanished into thin air.

I began trying to cook, thinking of pork or perhaps something with chickpeas and spinach. But my wife just rattled off a list of ingredients: onions, peppers, maybe some pears for dessert. I was in charge of the menu, but she was running the show. "Just tell me what you're cooking," she said.

As we worked, I'd periodically ask her if we needed any help or if they were on their way. But by 12:30 pm, when the table was set and the meat was resting, the only sound was our silence. It wasn't until quarter to two that my wife realized our guests hadn't called – not once, but twice.

We stared out the window, waiting for what felt like an eternity. The clock ticked by: 2 pm, 2:05 pm... something had clearly gone wrong. "Are you sure they knew it was lunch?" I asked, feeling a sense of unease creeping over me.

And then it hit me – my wife's text message from months ago inviting them to supper, not lunch. We'd been so caught up in our own planning that we'd forgotten the original invitation.

I slumped forward, putting my head in my hands. Our friends would arrive at 7:30 pm, and we'd have to regroup after our morning's mishap. The stew I planned to create later would be a disaster – it wouldn't even pass muster as "lunch." But hey, at least the wine would flow.

As I looked up, my wife was scrolling through her phone, tracing back their conversation chain from August. She shook her head and muttered, "Supper."
 
🤦‍♂️ I mean come on, can't they even be punctual for a casual lunch? It's not like it's the end of the world if they're 2 hours late... But seriously, who plans an entire meal without double-checking with the guests about the time? 🤔 My wife just rolled with it and changed the plan on me, no biggie... except when you're in charge of cooking, right? 😩 And then she finds out months later that they thought it was a supper invite... Talk about a disaster! 🍴 At least the wine will save the day 💥
 
I feel like this whole thing is a metaphor for our current foodie culture 🍴👀. Everyone's always talking about the latest trends and restaurants, but nobody ever checks in with their friends first. I mean, it's not just about planning the menu; it's about planning for people's lives. We're so caught up in our own social calendars that we forget to check in with others.

And let's be real, this whole thing is also a reflection of how fast-paced and competitive our society has become 🕒💼. It's not just about cooking or planning; it's about being on top of your game at all times. If you're not the first one to plan the menu, the event is already over. But what if we slow down a bit? What if we prioritize relationships over recipes?

I'm just saying, this whole experience has made me think that maybe we need to redefine what it means to be "on time" in today's world 🕰️🤔.
 
I don’t usually comment but that's just a wild mistake 🤯... like, how can you forget the original plan? It's not even like it's a big deal or anything, just a casual lunch with friends. But I guess sometimes life gets crazy and plans go awry 😅... at least your wife is taking responsibility for it. And yeah, wine will definitely help salvage the situation 🍷. On the bright side, you got to have some fun in the kitchen together. It's not all about the guests, right? 😉
 
Omg what a disaster 🤦‍♀️! I mean, who forgets that they invited people for supper not lunch 😂? I guess even the most punctual people can have an off day... or week 🤔. But seriously, it's kinda funny how they just vanished into thin air without even calling to cancel 📞. And poor you having to regroup at 7:30 pm when your wine was ready to flow 🍷! Did you guys talk to your friends after that and find out what happened? Were they just running late or did something unexpected come up? 😁
 
omg what a disaster 🤦‍♀️! i mean i get it we all forget sometimes but weeks of planning?! that's just crazy. it's not even about the guests showing up late or forgetting they came, it's about how it affected your wife and you both feeling like u had no control over the plans. at least ur wine is ready 😂. but seriously, communication is key in situations like this. maybe next time u should be the one making the text message or just having a clear backup plan? 🤔
 
I feel me 😩... this is like, so relatable! who hasn't planned an event or a meetup and then forgotten the other person's plans? it's like, you're too caught up in your own world to think about what others might be doing. i mean, 7:30 pm is still a long time after lunch, though... hopefully our dinner guests won't judge us too harshly 🤣. maybe we can just blame it on the wine 😉?
 
😂🤦‍♀️ oh man that's a major fail! 😂 planning an event is soooo not just about the food it's about timing and communication. how could you guys miss that? 🙄 like literally check your calendar twice or something. and now they're going to show up at 7:30 pm and you'll have to start all over again 🤯 what was your wife thinking by sending a text message for supper instead of lunch in the first place?! 🤷‍♀️ anyway, wine is always a good backup plan 😊🍷
 
😂🤦‍♀️ I mean, can you even believe it? We're all so caught up in planning this supposed "informal lunch" that we completely forgot the original plan 🙈! It's like they wanted us to fail, or something... maybe they were just playing a prank on us 🤣. But seriously, if my wife had actually remembered to text them about it being supper and not lunch, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have been so chill when they didn't show up 😒. And now we're stuck with a whole afternoon to deal with the fallout... ugh! 👎
 
I'm telling ya, with all these smart home devices and whatnot, people are still going to mess stuff up 🤦‍♂️. I mean, my aunt's friend just got a new Amazon Echo that can make coffee for you, but she still can't even remember the day of the week, let alone send out invites on time 😂. It's like they think tech is going to solve all their problems or something. Newsflash: it's not a substitute for common sense or basic planning skills 🤔. And don't even get me started on Google Calendar – I mean, what's up with that thing? You set reminders and notifications, but somehow you still end up stuck in the past 🕰️. Anyway, at least the wine will flow... right? 🍷
 
🤦‍♂️ come on, you think it's that hard to realize your own mistake? I mean, invite them for supper months ago, but still expect them to show up at 12:30 pm like it was a lunch invitation? 🤔 what were they thinking?! And yeah, the wine would definitely be flowing after this disaster, but next time just double-check those texts, okay? 😂
 
omg u guys i cant even... so like ur wife invited ppl over for lunch but they never showed up and its not cuz they forgot or anything, its bc ur wife sent out a super formal invitation lol what if ur wife is trying to be all fancy and stuff? 🤣 and can we talk about how frustrating it must b 4 her 2 realize she invited them 2 supper instead of lunch... idk wut i would do in that situation 😩 anyway, wine is def the way 2 go rn 💃
 
OMG 🤯 like seriously how did it slip your mind?! ugh I just had the most random question tho, what's the deal with ppl always saying "no offense" when they're about to insult u? 😂 like can't we just be real for once? 🙃
 
OMG, like seriously?! 🤯 I've had similar experiences with friends where they just flake on plans without warning... it's always the same thing - we spend hours making food, setting up, and everything is ready to go... only for them to be MIA! 😂 Like, what even is the point of planning an event if you're not going to show up?!? I feel you, though... at least the wine will save the day 🍷.
 
I'm so frustrated when things like this happen. It's not just that our friends bailed on us, but we almost had a disaster because of it! I mean, who plans a lunch for weeks only to realize the guests don't even know what time it's supposed to be? 😂 My wife is right, though - those text messages are key. Like, if she'd just mentioned "supper" in the first place... 🤦‍♀️ It's easy to get caught up in planning, but we should've double-checked. On the bright side, now we can relax and enjoy the evening with wine... sounds like a plan to me! 👍
 
ugh 😩 my friend just cancelled plans last min and i'm literally crying over here 🤯 at least you had a good laugh about it tho lol 😂 think we should all start being more realistic about how things go sometimes... even when we plan like we do 💡
 
omg u gotta love when ur plan goes outta window lol 😂🍴 so yeah i feel u, been there done that, we all do. but its funny how sometimes it takes a little nudge 2 realize we messed up big time 🤦‍♂️ like in this case they literally invited themselves 2 supper not lunch 😂 dont even get me started on the stew situation lol, at least u got wine right 🍷
 
😂 I'm dyin' over here! Who plans a lunch that's gonna be cancelled, then rescheduled for dinner? 🤣 Your wife sounds like the ultimate planner, but also super clueless 😂. And I feel you on the stew, hope it still turns out okay 🍴. On a more serious note tho, how do you handle situations like this when they happen? Do you just laugh it off or get all stressed out with your partner 🤔?
 
omg this reminds me of when our class party planning committee messed up big time 🤦‍♀️ we spent weeks making posters and sending out invites but somehow no one showed up on the day of 📅 it was like they all had double planned or something. anyway i guess you gotta just roll with it and reschedule for another day 🤞
 
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