It was a punk rock gig in Wellington when I first laid eyes on Tom. In a crowd of black-clad music fans, he stood out - wearing what looked like his pyjamas, in the form of a pale blue Star Trek uniform. To me, at the time, it seemed surreal and ridiculous. But little did I know then that this moment would mark the beginning of an extraordinary friendship.
We didn't speak that night, but fate had other plans. Weeks later, while hanging out in a squat and working as a theatre set designer, Tom's name came up again - this time in connection to his love for Doctor Who and a peculiar costume he'd spotted on my own designs. In the midst of our quirky conversation about Daleks and sci-fi, I discovered that we shared more than just a sense of humour.
Our first meeting turned into an invitation to hang out more, culminating in us moving in together when Tom got a spare room in his flat. The moment I knew was almost as surreal as his Star Trek uniform that night at the punk gig - it felt like our lives had been on a collision course for years, and finally converging.
But there was a pang of fear attached to this revelation. I'd recently ended a relationship with a woman and felt like my life would never be the same again. It wasn't a bleak outlook but more of a sense of liberation - as if I was leaving behind a part of myself that no longer served me. The moment when I knew Tom was both exhilarating and scary, because it marked the end of a carefree chapter in my life.
We've been together for 18 years now, and our lives have taken on an entirely new rhythm. We love to dress up as masked characters, go on road trips, and explore nature - with Tom's passion for gardening and activism being a constant source of inspiration to me. Our bond is strong and has brought out the best in both of us.
I often find myself thinking back to that moment when I first met Tom, wondering if our lives had indeed been on a collision course all along. In many ways, it feels like we were meant to be together - two souls bound by an inexplicable connection, forged from a shared sense of curiosity and playfulness. And as for that Star Trek uniform? Well, let's just say it was the beginning of something truly remarkable.
We didn't speak that night, but fate had other plans. Weeks later, while hanging out in a squat and working as a theatre set designer, Tom's name came up again - this time in connection to his love for Doctor Who and a peculiar costume he'd spotted on my own designs. In the midst of our quirky conversation about Daleks and sci-fi, I discovered that we shared more than just a sense of humour.
Our first meeting turned into an invitation to hang out more, culminating in us moving in together when Tom got a spare room in his flat. The moment I knew was almost as surreal as his Star Trek uniform that night at the punk gig - it felt like our lives had been on a collision course for years, and finally converging.
But there was a pang of fear attached to this revelation. I'd recently ended a relationship with a woman and felt like my life would never be the same again. It wasn't a bleak outlook but more of a sense of liberation - as if I was leaving behind a part of myself that no longer served me. The moment when I knew Tom was both exhilarating and scary, because it marked the end of a carefree chapter in my life.
We've been together for 18 years now, and our lives have taken on an entirely new rhythm. We love to dress up as masked characters, go on road trips, and explore nature - with Tom's passion for gardening and activism being a constant source of inspiration to me. Our bond is strong and has brought out the best in both of us.
I often find myself thinking back to that moment when I first met Tom, wondering if our lives had indeed been on a collision course all along. In many ways, it feels like we were meant to be together - two souls bound by an inexplicable connection, forged from a shared sense of curiosity and playfulness. And as for that Star Trek uniform? Well, let's just say it was the beginning of something truly remarkable.
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Interesting how Tom's quirky style caught your eye back then... 18 years on and their bond is still strong 
I mean, 18 years together is no joke - that's some serious love and commitment right there! 
The way they met at a punk rock gig and just clicked on the geeky sci-fi thing... it's like fate brought them together. 
And can we talk about how adorable they are when they dress up in costume? 
. I mean, 18 years together sounds like a pretty random outcome to me. What if they'd met in an elevator or something? Would that make their connection any less special? 
I'm just saying, correlation doesn't equal causation, you know? And don't even get me started on the whole "our lives were on a collision course" vibe... sounds like just a fancy way of saying they both liked sci-fi and dressing up. Let's not romanticize random chance too much, okay? 
! It's so cool how Tom's quirky style at that punk rock gig caught your eye, and now you're together for 18 years 
. I mean, it's not every day you meet someone who shares your passions for sci-fi (Daleks are the best, btw 
. Can we get a coffee date invite or something? 
But what really struck me was how both exhilarating and scary it felt for you, realizing your life had changed forever... I think we all go through those moments where we're leaving behind the old us and stepping into the unknown. It's weirdly liberating, but also kinda terrifying 
It's amazing how sometimes life takes us on a wild ride and we end up exactly where we're meant to be. 
Sometimes I look back on my own life and think about all the 'what ifs' but it's funny how life can take unexpected turns... like running into an old friend at a music gig in Wellington 
it's like fate brought them together! i love how they've found each other & explored all the cool things life has to offer - masked characters, road trips, nature... it's like they're living their best lives 
It's amazing how sometimes life takes a surreal turn, but in all the right ways 
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. 18 years together is no joke, though - I can imagine it's not always easy to keep the spark alive. But at the same time, it sounds like Tom brought out this other side of you that was just waiting to be explored 
and its clear how much they've grown together 
ur bond is def strong & inspiring 
keep exploring, dressing up, & being your awesome selves