Polyamory, regrets and revenge: changing the story on infidelity

Lily Allen's West End Girl album has spawned a flurry of media attention, with the public's fascination extending beyond the musician's music to her personal life, specifically her marriage to David Harbour and their reported dalliance with polyamory. The album serves as a soundtrack for Allen's own heartbreak, with its catchy yet emotionally raw tracks capturing the pain and anger that followed the breakdown of her relationship.

But what makes infidelity such a compelling topic in literature? It's not just about the cheating itself, but about the complex emotions and power dynamics at play. Recent novels have tackled this subject from various angles, often using non-traditional narrative structures to explore the intricacies of relationships and desire.

Take Andrew Miller's Booker-shortlisted The Land in Winter, for instance. Set against the backdrop of rural England in 1962, the novel follows two couples as they navigate their relationships and desires. The story is told through the eyes of a country doctor who becomes embroiled in an affair with a wealthy woman, raising questions about the nature of love, loyalty, and identity.

Miranda July's All Fours, on the other hand, offers a more comedic take on infidelity, following the story of a mid-40-year-old woman who embarks on a cross-country road trip to pursue an affair with a young Hertz employee. What makes this novel so subversive is its unexpected twist: instead of sleeping with Davey, she sleeps with his mother's friend, adding a darkly bizarre layer to the narrative.

Other recent novels have approached infidelity from more conventional angles, such as Sarah Manguso's Liars and Catherine Lacey's The MΓΆbius Book. Both books share a sense of anger and resentment towards the cheating partner, but also fall short in their refusal to offer a deeper exploration of the emotions at play.

However, Lauren Elkin's Scaffolding offers a refreshing alternative. By centering desire and relationships, the novel explores the complexities of long-term monogamy and its disintegration. The dual structure of the narrative echoes Anna's own experiences as a psychoanalyst, creating a sense of universality and connection to everyday life.

Ultimately, the enduring appeal of novels about infidelity lies in their ability to tap into our collective longings, fears, and anxieties. As one character remarks in Scaffolding, "The most interesting part of infidelity isn't will they or won't they... it's everything else around it." These stories remind us that relationships are messy, complicated, and multifaceted – and that the true power lies not in the cheating itself, but in the emotions, desires, and fears that make up our shared human experience.
 
I'm so fascinated by these novels about infidelity! 🀯 I think what's really interesting is how they all take different approaches to exploring the complexities of relationships and desire. Some are super funny like Miranda July's All Fours πŸ˜‚, while others are more serious and emotional like Lily Allen's album.

But honestly, I think that's what makes these stories so compelling - they're not just about cheating, but about how it affects people's lives and emotions. It's all about the messy bits in between, you know? πŸ’• Like, we've all been there, wondering if someone will end up with us or not, but really, it's all about what happens when that relationship falls apart.

And I love how Lauren Elkin's Scaffolding does just that - explores the complexities of long-term monogamy and its disintegration. It's like, we're all trying to figure this out as we go along, right? πŸ’­
 
Wow 🀯 this is so interesting! Like, we always know it's drama when someone cheats, but these novels go deeper into what makes people do it and how that affects everyone involved πŸ’”. And I love how some of them try new things with the storytelling, like The Land in Winter and All Fours... they keep me guessing πŸ€”.
 
I'm really drawn to how Scaffolding tackles the complexities of long-term monogamy and its disintegration πŸ€”πŸ“š I mean, we've all been there at some point or another where things just get stuck and you don't know what's going on anymore 😩. Lauren Elkin does a great job of exploring those feelings and desires in a way that feels really relatable. I love how the dual structure of the narrative echoes Anna's own experiences as a psychoanalyst, it gives me chills 🀯. And I think you're right, what makes infidelity such a compelling topic is the emotions and power dynamics at play πŸ’•. It's not just about the cheating itself, but about what happens after that... and how do we deal with those feelings? 😩
 
infidelity is SOOOO complex!!! 🀯 i mean, it's not just about the act itself, but all the messy emotions and power dynamics that come with it. like, what even IS love? πŸ’” is it loyalty? trust? or is it just a bunch of feelings we don't really understand? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ anyway, these recent novels are tackling it from all angles - some funny, some serious, but they're all making me think about my own relationships and desires in a whole new way... i'm low-key obsessed with scaffolding rn! πŸ“šπŸ’–
 
πŸ“šπŸ’” I think what draws people to novels about infidelity is because they're so relatable 🀝πŸ‘₯. We've all been there - wondering if someone we trust is lying to us πŸ˜•, or feeling like we're in a rut in our own relationships 🌈. Novels that explore these feelings and desires are like a mirror held up to ourselves, reflecting our deepest fears and anxieties πŸ’€. And yeah, the complicated web of emotions and power dynamics can be super messy and uncomfortable, but that's what makes it so fascinating πŸ”₯.
 
i think infidelity is way overrated πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ i mean, what's so interesting about someone else's dirty laundry? the media attention surrounding lily allen's album is just a bunch of people trying to vicariously live through her drama 😴 and honestly, who needs to read about someone else's cheating problems when there are so many more fascinating stories out there? like, have you read any good thrillers lately? those are way more compelling than some dude's midlife crisis πŸ“š
 
I think infidelity is like a forbidden fruit we all secretly want to peck at πŸ‰πŸ’β€β™€οΈ It's like how everyone talks about relationships like they're some sort of fairy tale romance, but no one really wants to admit the messy reality that comes with them πŸ˜‚. Novels like Scaffolding tap into this desire for complexity and exploration, you know? They make us feel less alone in our own tangled web of emotions πŸ’•. It's not just about the cheating itself, but about what happens next – the guilt, the shame, the thrill... it's all so juicy πŸ”πŸ‘€!
 
I think novels about infidelity can be really captivating because they let you explore all these messy emotions and complexities of relationships 🀯. Like, people always talk about the cheating part, but what's so interesting is how it affects everyone involved - the person who got cheated on, the cheater themselves, even their friends and family 🀝. It's like this whole web of power dynamics and secrets that come out when someone breaks the rules of a relationship πŸ’”.

And I love how some novels try to subvert expectations, like Miranda July's All Fours - who wouldn't want to read about a woman sleeping with her friend's mom? πŸ˜‚ But at the same time, it's like, what are we really talking about when we talk about infidelity? Is it just the act of cheating, or is it something deeper? I think that's what Lauren Elkin's Scaffolding gets right - it's not just about the cheating, but about how relationships can be beautiful and messy and complicated all at once 🌈.
 
πŸ€” I think what's interesting about novels like Scaffolding is how they challenge this idea that infidelity is just a simple "cheat" thing. Like, we're so quick to judge people who cheat, but it's actually really complicated. We need stories like Scaffolding that show the emotions and desires behind it all 🌈. It's not just about the cheating, it's about what makes us human, you know? And I love how Lauren Elkin explores long-term monogamy too - it's like, we're always supposed to be this perfect couple, but really it's all messy and imperfect πŸ˜‚.
 
I think these novels about infidelity are so relatable because they don't just focus on the cheating part, but also on how it affects everyone involved πŸ€―πŸ’”. It's like, what even is love when you're not sure who you can trust? And I feel like that's a theme that we all can relate to, regardless of our own experiences πŸ’•. I mean, have you ever felt like you've been cheated on or worried about your partner cheating on you? 😬 It's such a vulnerable feeling, but at the same time, it's also super humanizing πŸ€—.
 
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